10 life lessons in my first 30 years

In less than a month, I will be attaining the unspeakable age. Yes, I am still unconsciously rejecting the fact that I am upgraded to a higher level in the age category.

Thinking is no more than a tiny aspect of the totality of consciousness, the totality of who you are.

By Eckhart Tolle

OK. Maybe I am thinking too much. AGE is nothing but just numbers. Looking at this in a more positive angle, the numbers are reminding us of the tasks we are to complete before we leave the earth.
So, right now I am asking myself “What have I learn in my first 30 years in life?”

Lesson #1 Money is not everything; family is on top of anything

I was brought up in an environment where money is so important because my parents have to work very hard to earn cash to support the family. There were times where the more money they make, the more they wanted. The sky is the limit. It was a never-ending affair.

Not until the day my dad passed away, I realized that money and all those things that money can buy are useless because it cannot bring my dad back. All those expensive material goodies that my dad treasured when he was alive are left untouched in the cupboard and some ended up in the bin. It was then that I realized family is more important than anything in the world. My workaholic life stopped at that instance.

Lesson #2 Work life balance is the way to sustain a healthy work relationship

This lesson is an extension from Lesson #1. 

Realizing that family is top priority, my life is now balanced between work and personal life. It has to be this way because working to a point of obsession is way too unhealthy. I believe in producing high quality work and balancing with good quality time spent with family & friends.

Life has certainly been so much happier. Plus, I am so much healthier too!

Lesson #3 Appreciate the man who willingly shower you with true love

Men are everywhere.

To find the one that truly care for you and love you for who you are, is the true challenge. I have found mine after years of searching and unbearable years of dating disaster. He is more than what I have dreamed of in a man.

“Bubbles, thank you for being in my life and I love you more each day”.

However, to be loved and cherished, I too need to express appreciation and gratitude for it takes both hands to clap.

Lesson #4 People are too busy minding their own business

I used to mind what others think of me but then how can one control thousands of minds? 

So, now I am who I am, do what I do best and mind my own business because everyone is actually doing the same. No one has more than 5 minutes a day to think of what you do or what you wear, so don’t be obsessed by it! 

Lesson #5 No decision is ever completely right or wrong

Even a spoiled clock is right twice a day!

That’s why I always say there are no wrong or right answers, for it is the only answer available at that crucial moment. 

Lesson #6 Happiness is not given; Happiness is a state of mind

Ever said to yourself, “If only I earn ten thousand dollars a month, I’ll then be able to buy that diamond and be the happiest woman on earth!”.

Well, guess what? That kinda ‘happy’ condition will not last forever because soon you will be miserable again for you have another wish in mind to accomplish. However, I know some rich people who suffered from depression everyday! 

Don’t ever relate happiness to materials or even to another person. Happiness is something that is nurtured within yourself. Be happy for who you are, where you are and how you are. Start to appreciate your life and happiness will always be there for you.

Lesson #7 If you want something, you have to DO something!

There are no free lunches in this world. Everything you achieved or owned has a price to pay. I have seen people who moaned and grumbled each day about why life isn’t going the way they want it to be and yet they still continue moaning and grumbling every single day. 

I am not as lucky as some people who were born with everything on their plate. No doubt I have wonderful parents who will try to provide me with the essentials of life. However, I know what I want in life and I will reach out to do whatever I can to arrive at my desired destination. So far, I am truly satisfied with the results and will still grab any opportunities that will lead me to my ideal situation. 

My motto is if you want something, go out there and get it! Opportunities are everywhere. Are you reaching out for it?

Lesson #8 Having good quality friends is way better than having way too many friends

I have made lots of friends throughout my life and will be making more friends as I walk further in life. However, good friends are not easy to find. In a bunch of a hundred friends, only a handful might be considered good friends. I have not a hundred good friends but I have a couple of dear friends who will be cherished and loved because they have done the same for me. You know who you are and you will always be in my heart! Love you gals!

Lesson #9 Learning to love myself

If you don’t start loving yourself, who is going to?

I walked through a painful stretch of my life to realize this simple theory. 

Lesson #10 Living life and seeking passion all the way!

Know what you enjoy and doing it every day is the only way to truly lead a fulfilling life. This is something that I have learn so far and yet to achieve. I will take this year to seriously consider my passions and how to live it every day!

Well, I guess it is not that bad because I realized that I have certainly lived a wonderful and fulfilling life so far. Saying this, I should be looking forward to the next 30 marvelous years! Tick tocking to my birthday where I will blow the candles and proudly announce that I am 30 years old. 

 *proud and pleased*