Friday, April 30, 2010

need a quickie?

What is the best way to get your mood up and motivated in life again?

What is the best way to ensure your stress level stay as neutral as possible?

When life seems stagnant and pointless in your everyday activities, what is the fastest way to lift yourself up?


sun, sea & bikinis

stepping into paradise together!!

great place, great atmosphere, great food, great company...

cheers to quickie!
I'm back with full force, recharged and slightly tanned!

Friday, April 23, 2010

When opportunity knocks...

Sometimes opportunity knocks, but most of the time it sneaks up and then quietly steals away.
Doug Larson

When opportunity knocks, do you open the door and grab it or will you be too afraid and unknowingly allow opportunity to slip away? I nearly let an opportunity slipped away because I have too much doubts. I was too afraid to commit myself and face failure in the future because I was afraid to become a loser. But what I didn't know was if I let the opportunity slipped away, I will certainly be the loser.

Once upon a time, I would not even ponder my action and act on opportunities. My dad always say "Opportunities favor the prepared mind" and the saying stayed with me until recently... when all my actions need to be thoroughly analyzed and all decisions need to be supported by facts.

Is it because age is catching
up and I'm too afraid to lose? Is age making me timid in my decision making?

Bubbles told me, "Grab it because you have nothing to lose for if it's not your cup of tea then you can always let it go". Very wise indeed. I have found my courage and went for it!

The secret of success is to be ready when your opportunity comes. Opportunity doesn't knock twice.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Thoughts of life

The days are getting closer and closer; however I am not feeling the excitement and eagerness that I've felt 30 days back. Perhaps I have gotten used to the feeling and thus I don't feel it as powerful as it was before. Perhaps I have gotten used to being alone. Perhaps I am expecting some major changes that will happen in the near future?

Recently, I am thinking a lot again and most thoughts are repetition, almost like a vicious cycle that leads to one another. One question occur most frequently is "Why am I here?". The 'here' refers to the earth.

I was reading a book by my favourite author "Paulo Coelho" and the following paragraphs caught my attention:

.... He died while he was still alive. That might seem a contradiction in terms; but I know a lot of people who have stopped living, even though they continue working and eating and carrying on with their usual social activities. They do everything on automatic pilot, unaware of the magic moment that each day brings with it, never stopping to think about the miracle of life, not understanding that the next minute could be their last on the face of this planet.

.... I know it's not a topic anyone likes to think about, but I have duty to my readers - to make them think about the most important things in life. And death is possibly 'the' most important thing. We are all walking towards death, but we never know when death will touch us and it is our duty, therefore, to look around us, to be grateful for each minute. But we must also be grateful to death, because it makes us think about the importance of each decision we take, or fail to take; it makes us stop doing anything that keeps us stuck in the category of the 'living dead' and, instead, urges us to risk everything, to bet everything on those things we always dreamed of doing, because, whether we like it or not, the angel of death is waiting for us.

It is true that death forced me to look at life in a different manner. Ever since my dad's sudden death, I have become a different person, someone who appreciates the flow of life rather than pride, honors, being rich & famous. I have slowed down my aggressive behavior and obsession towards my work. I'm grateful for everything and every person that appears in my life and made a difference. I used to be an extremely independent woman who doesn't need or care about anyone in life but a successful career, having a lot of money and yearns for absolute freedom to travel extensively and having FUN!

Now, my life has taken a different route and I believe that every moment and everything happens for a reason.

In life, I have also learned that we must never take anything for granted. Especially people we care for. Love must be nurtured and cherished. Being reckless or abandoning it for just a few seconds might break the fragile bond forever. Some people might assume that if the bond is strong, it will never be broken. Here is why many hearts are broken, arguments explode at home and marriage vows destroyed. The bond of love is not given or happens in a few seconds but needs tender loving care to develop that special feeling in the heart. Over time, the feeling will grow stronger and wider. Imagine planting a seed in the ground and everyday, without fail, the seed needs water & fertilizer to grow. It will then bloom and grow stronger and taller each day. Then one day, little buds will form on the tree branches. Buds that will bear fruits or beautiful flowers. Even then, the tree still need to be cared for to continue being strong and to continue blooming.

Will the tree die of old age or lack of TLC? The fate of the tree is totally up to the care taker.

Right now, I am struggling to move away from the very attachment that is stopping my progress and halting my journey to achieving my passion in life. I am exhausted from all the excuses that have been given by me to justify my attachments. The courage that I have been seeking for must come into existence in order for me to move on...

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Positive mindset to a happy life

Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So, love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who do not.
Open your heart to those who sincerely reach out to you.
Believe everything happens for a reason.

Very well said indeed. This is going to be my life's motto and the mindset to achieving my 2010 New Year's Resolution.

1. Be happy & Stay happy

2. Spread happiness

3. Love & be loved

Lovely people...

Great family...

a wonderful man...

Monday, April 19, 2010

Escaping from a complicated life

Could anyone share with me...

How can life be simple?

Understanding how the human mind thinks and analyze situation deep down to the how, what, when, who, why, where... and here is the start of all complications. As simple as I want it to be, I started the New Year with 3 simple resolutions.

1. Be Happy & Stay Happy
2. Spread Happiness
3. Love & be loved

However, right until now... almost half a year has zoomed by and I have yet to achieve all three. Based on my personal measurement, it's not even close to 50 percent of achievement. You see, it's the mind that is making it difficult. It is again the mind that complicates matter and makes life difficult. It is nothing but the mind that has been controlling our lives.

So, my question again... do share if you have any insights and enlighten me...

How can we simplify life and escape from a disastrous & complicated world?

Thursday, April 15, 2010

10 simple things women wants

Men always ponder on “What exactly do women want?” Here is a fascinating article I found on the internet about what women truly wants…

Are women really complex creatures? It is true that women operate on a different wavelength than men. Have you read the book “Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus?”

So, we’re different. But, women aren’t exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. Here are 10 simple things that women want and you won’t find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, but that’s a different story…

1. Women want to be respected.

Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don’t have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. We want Sex too.

Yes, we love sex. But, remember that there are four bases to cover in the bedroom, not just one. Try stopping at each base instead of being so focused on the goal—believe us, we’ll thank you for it! Likewise, remember small physical touches like massages. One can never, ever, have too many shoulder rubs. And scratching our heads is pretty great, too. Not to mention little touches on the arms and feet.

3. Women can’t live without romance.

It’s another night on the couch with take-out and Astro? Just because we’re staying in doesn’t mean the evening can’t be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, making out in the car, kissing like when we first started dating—all of the things that made us fall in love with you don’t have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids that need to get bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We’re not talking RM100 bouquets of roses here. Even the RM10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

4. We need your time.

We understand relationships can’t be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says “love” more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not take vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you’ll be getting a big smooch when you come back.

5. Women want to be pampered.

You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water or cook instant noodles. But greeting us after a long day with a burger or whatever you may grab would makes us swoon, because it shows that you’ve been thinking about us and our hectic day.

6. We love to communicate.

Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it’s nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure and need reassurance from time to time. So let us know when you think we’re hot. Tell us we’re beautiful. It helps us feel good. Plus, when we feel sexy we’re more likely to act sexy. Words of appreciation aren’t half-bad either. Tell us you love the pasta we made. Notice that we’ve done your laundry. It doesn’t have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you’re grateful. Also, don’t forget the 3 magical words from time to time…

7. We appreciate consistency.

This doesn’t mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you’re coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

8. Women = Engagement

Not the “I’m getting married in the morning” kind. You don’t have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We’re not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it’s the name of your best friend’s husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it’s the little things you remember about us that’s so endearing.

9. Women adore Humor and Humility.

These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn’t mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

10. Women want to be challenged.

The good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be or achieve what we desire. Studies show that, partners who prod each other to meet goals are ultimately happier than those who don’t hold each other accountable.

Hope you've managed to learn a thing or two from this article *winks*


Monday, April 12, 2010

Tick tock tick tock

A month has passed painfully and somehow felt too slowly without Bubbles. I admit that I was so comfortable and so used to him being with me all the time that sometimes I have taken for granted that he will always be here.

Somehow, when 2 people stay together for a period of time... it's so easy to take each other for granted.
My friends told me that a lil' distance will build more intense fire in the relationship and distance will make the heart grow fonder... One way or another, it did make me missed him intensely.

... missing our Friday dates
... missing spending time together
... missing his childish way of making me laugh
... missing holding hands
... missing the feeling of my head on his shoulder

... missing his arms
... missing our routine hugs & kisses

... missing his non-fragrant scent
... missing snuggling next to him and feel warm
... missing watching tv & singing the movie theme song together
... missing our lil' unmentionable secret codes we used to tease each other

... simply missing him... my bubbles...

The list will never stop... I am "tick-tocking" til the day he will be back again.

"te echo de menos"

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Just do it!

What's gonna happen if you say what's on your mind?

Maybe the question to ask should be;

What's gonna happen if I don't say what's on my mind?

The answer is simple; NOTHING.

Most people would rather make a big fuss about unpleasant situations than deal with it. The actions would consist of following what's being told in a certain level of unwillingness but rather zip it than to spurt it out. Hmmm...

I went for a meeting in Singapore few days back and I remembered very well what the boss told our team...

"Ask for what you want because if you don't ask, you won't get it."

Even after this opening line from the boss, I would say it was less than 50 percent of the group that voiced out their needs and ideas. Most would just agree with those who voiced out or just sat there trying to built their courage to ask. Maybe, some would rather go with the flow and think it's not worth asking anyway because in
the end they will still not get what they want. Of course there were also a few who would nudge each other hoping that one of them would have the courage to do it!

In different situations there are ways and methods to ask for what we want. Our mind needs to filter and process all information and prioritize what's most important. Then put these information in a nice format to be presented... or simply ask nicely in the right situation and to the right individual.

Of course, the world ain't perfect. Not everything we ask for we will get. However, if you don't ask... the percentage of getting what you want will be zero.

So, what's the risk of asking for what we want?

Maybe 50 percen
t of not getting it.

However, the risk of not asking for what we want is 100 percent of not getting it.
So since there's minimal risk when we ask for what we want comparing to when we don't ask for it, then why not pick up the courage and JUST DO IT!

I'm not afraid of asking for what I want... I want a lifetime of love & joy with him...