Thursday, April 15, 2010

10 simple things women wants

Men always ponder on “What exactly do women want?” Here is a fascinating article I found on the internet about what women truly wants…

Are women really complex creatures? It is true that women operate on a different wavelength than men. Have you read the book “Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus?”

So, we’re different. But, women aren’t exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. Here are 10 simple things that women want and you won’t find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, but that’s a different story…

1. Women want to be respected.

Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don’t have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. We want Sex too.

Yes, we love sex. But, remember that there are four bases to cover in the bedroom, not just one. Try stopping at each base instead of being so focused on the goal—believe us, we’ll thank you for it! Likewise, remember small physical touches like massages. One can never, ever, have too many shoulder rubs. And scratching our heads is pretty great, too. Not to mention little touches on the arms and feet.

3. Women can’t live without romance.

It’s another night on the couch with take-out and Astro? Just because we’re staying in doesn’t mean the evening can’t be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, making out in the car, kissing like when we first started dating—all of the things that made us fall in love with you don’t have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids that need to get bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We’re not talking RM100 bouquets of roses here. Even the RM10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

4. We need your time.

We understand relationships can’t be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says “love” more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not take vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you’ll be getting a big smooch when you come back.

5. Women want to be pampered.

You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water or cook instant noodles. But greeting us after a long day with a burger or whatever you may grab would makes us swoon, because it shows that you’ve been thinking about us and our hectic day.

6. We love to communicate.

Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it’s nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure and need reassurance from time to time. So let us know when you think we’re hot. Tell us we’re beautiful. It helps us feel good. Plus, when we feel sexy we’re more likely to act sexy. Words of appreciation aren’t half-bad either. Tell us you love the pasta we made. Notice that we’ve done your laundry. It doesn’t have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you’re grateful. Also, don’t forget the 3 magical words from time to time…

7. We appreciate consistency.

This doesn’t mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you’re coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

8. Women = Engagement

Not the “I’m getting married in the morning” kind. You don’t have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We’re not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it’s the name of your best friend’s husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it’s the little things you remember about us that’s so endearing.

9. Women adore Humor and Humility.

These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn’t mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

10. Women want to be challenged.

The good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be or achieve what we desire. Studies show that, partners who prod each other to meet goals are ultimately happier than those who don’t hold each other accountable.

Hope you've managed to learn a thing or two from this article *winks*


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